It was with such joy that I scrolled through Twitter this morning, to find a video of a young man that walked into KFC, thinking he is going to tell off a young woman who he alleges wrote her telephone number on a receipt and gave to his boyfriend. The cashier, who appears to be younger than the other women in the video, seems dumbfounded by his comments and the resulting exchange was magic – Black Girl Magic to be specific.
I’m hollering 😭😭😭 pic.twitter.com/oy385H4sjO
— Jigga👑 (@jaixo__) December 12, 2018
This was a beautiful example of Black Sisterhood and gave us a few steps of how it is done.
Step 1. While I am not sure of all their ages, the cashier he was addressing appears to be younger than the other women in the video. The elders step up and ride for her which is what we are called to do. You are not about to come in and speak any kind of way to our young women. We stand in the gap. We hold space.
Step 2. When a Black woman starts with, “Let me explain something to you…” don’t say one more word. We have practiced for moments like this daily. We have a thesis statement, a dissertation, references, quotes from Harriet Tubman and Michelle Obama if needed. We have trained for moments just like these. We don’t have to raise our voices but understand when we say, “let me explain something to you,” be quiet and just listen. We are about to tell you a truth that has been whispered to us from the ancestors and tried by fire.
Step 3. “When you walk in here, say good morning like we said to you.” Code for we didn’t disrespect you, don’t you disrespect us. Don’t start none, won’t be none.
Step 4. “I don’t care about no Antwan. I don’t care about none of that.” When Black women start listing what they don’t care about, the topic is over. Done. You will not convince us to ever care again. We are finished. And when a Black woman is finished, it is done.
Step 5. “You not checking nothing in here. I’m the one checking off. I’m checking lists and everything.” Don’t think you are going to walk in our space and disrespect us. We have worked far too hard to be in the positions we are in for you to believe you are going to come in here and tell us that you are about to check someone especially a young, Black woman. Not on our watch.
Step 6. “Do you want some chicken?” Look, we will give you a chance to collect yourself before we have to gather you. The option is yours. Your best bet is to just sit there and eat your food.
Step 7 “And ho, ho, ho.” We got your Christmas, Kwanzaa, New Years, 4th of July. Whatever you want to call it but what you not gonna do is say anything out of order to a young, Black woman.
Step 8. “Welcome to our store.” All for one and one for all. If you have a problem with one of our sisters you have a problem with all of us. Black women have a secret light we flash in the sky that alerts us to fall in Formation.
Step 9 “You in the hood.” Don’t get it twisted. Don’t let our wardrobe fool you. Don’t let our degrees get you messed up. We can throw hands if need be. Now like we said, “Would you like some chicken?”
I love being a Black woman and I love Black women!! Black women are the Daughters, Sisters, Aunties, Mamas, and Big Mommas that we all need. Black women are the super extended family that I have been blessed to be born into.
There is nothing like Black sisterhood! Ms. Denita and the women of KFC, I salute you! Thank you for making me smile and reminding me just how beautiful it is to be a Black Woman!
UPDATE: I was so moved by Denita that I was DETERMINED to find her. I messaged #KFC and #YUMBrands and I even called the KFC headquarters. In a world with so much hate taking place, I refused to sit back and ignore a Black woman and her staff standing up for a young, Black woman. We need to see some goodness in the world! And then finally I found her! And here is the kicker, DENITA HAD NO IDEA SHE WENT VIRAL!!! She is not on Twitter and I told her, the video she was in has been viewed almost 3 MILLION TIMES! She had no idea! (She joined Twitter after I spoke with her.). I wanted for us to do something for her so I asked for her cashapp if anyone would like to donate to her to have a blessed holiday season. She is a mother and clearly has shown the world she works hard. Let’s show Denita some love! If you would like to donate to Denita her cashapp is $DenitaRoseborough. And please follow Denita Roseborough on Twitter. ❤️
2020 UPDATE: Denita’s cashapp is now $25Heaven25.
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I love this! I love to see Black women protecting, stanning, and mentoring our young ladies. I have a couple of nieces and I hope to be their best Auntie!
I’ve had women like this in my life, so I’m dedicated now to paying it forward to the young ladies I encounter, now that I have some years and gravitas on me, and can check people without repercussions. (Although, that has always been one of my few superpowers, even when I was younger. I’m just a lot more confident about it using now.)
I know a lot of younger women might be nervous calling out other people’s behavior,(as I used to be) but once we get some years on, almost nothing at all is intimidating to us. We will speak out to anybody we see doing something wrong.
I call that “The Auntie Power”! We all got it, but some of us just need to let it develop more, and use it for the good of others.
Dear Sista Hannah… This post has made my entire week, amidst what has generally been a time of continuous teeth grating, hyper self-control having, and keeping weapons at least 10 feet away to avoid immediate use, for me. To witness these women in action as they come to the defense of the younger sister and for each other ,has given me the “power bar” I need, at least for the remainder of this month. Plus, NOBODY reads anybody like a well seasoned sista. Happy Holidays, and Ho, Ho, Ho!
Bro. Man was about to all kind of work. #HowEverHeWantedIt
My Sistah Hannah!!!!
I wish more Black more felt compelled to stand up for or stand with one another. Thanks to you and Denita for making a sister like me believe it still exist!
This was beautiful to see. It was a nice way to close out the year.
I love how these black women stood in the gap. They refused disrespectful behavior and let him know that he could either get it together or get this work. His choic .
Does she have PayPal?
I don’t think so because I asked for that first and she didn’t have it. I will ask again though. It is nice that you even asked. Thank you, Francena.
I sent her some Christmas cheer! Thank you for sharing and caring
Thank you so much, Tunisa. That is very kind of you. Have a Merry Christmas! 🎄
I sent $2 lol. I have NEVER done anything like that. But you so right. We gotta stick together. Sending luv to all my sistas from Houston TX
That is kind. There is no amount too small when you are giving from the heart and that is sweet. Thank you, Tyler.