Category: Thoughts, Musings and Reflections

Black People Business

And as much as your fingers are itching to give Black people your thoughts, challenge yourself to resist the urge to offer your opinion. And I know that is difficult for many White people to do because they are used to everything being centered around them. White people are used to being the centralized voice. White people are used to their opinions always being needed and heard. But when Black people speak to Black people, your voice does not need to be at the center. Perhaps this is a time for you to just listen. Let Black people have a moment that centers Black people. It is okay for every conversation not to center White people. It is okay for you to acknowledge this particular conversation doesn’t pertain to me.

Before You Quote Dr. King To Feel Good (2022)

Dr. King wasn’t fighting, so you could dust off a quote, post it on social media one day out of the year and do nothing to advance race relations in this country. On this day and every day, I challenge White people do not just read the Dr. King quotes that make you feel good. Read Dr. King’s work in its entirety and ask yourself. “Am I contributing to the dream or helping to facilitate the nightmare?”

“How Are You? No. I Mean Really, How Are You?”

Immediately my mind found the pathway back to when another friend met with me on Zoom. It was for a pre-call to a workshop that I was conducting for their organization, and they asked how I was doing. I said, “I am fine.” Then they asked, “No, really, how are you?” Even on that Zoom call, I fought back the tears. I lied, forcing a smile that I hoped looked genuine as I said, “I’m good. I’m good.” I am the strong one. I am not allowed to have bad days.